Who Am I?

Selfie with Secession mirror.

I’m an American Foreign Service spouse. My husband and I just completed our sixth assignment overseas together, in Vienna, Austria. Previously, we’ve been posted to Latin America, Africa, and Eastern Europe, and my husband has done one year-long “unaccompanied” tour. Our next post will be Warsaw, Poland in 2015.

I’m not a super gung-ho diplomatic spouse.  I like living overseas, but I like living at home, too. Each has its advantages and disadvantages. I love my downtown apartment, but I miss having a real garden. I love the travel–love it!–but I don’t like being so far from family. The Foreign Service can be fun, but it can also be a lot of work. And it’s very stressful. It’s definitely a trade-off as far as I am concerned.

And my relationship with the State Department? It’s, um, complicated?

This blog represents my perspective, which is mine, and only mine, and not official in any way. I am not an employee of the State Department and I am not an official representative of the U.S. government. As long as we are clear on that, if you would like to quote me or link to me, please feel free to do so.

Kelly Bembry Midura
at Well, That Was Different

9 responses to “Who Am I?

  1. Thanks for connecting! I’m looking forward to keeping in touch and reading about your experiences in the FS. I’m a former FSO turned EFM and know all too well what you mean by “complicated.” My wife is still in; we’re posted in BKK. We’re trying to enjoy to best of the FS life with as few headaches as possible.


  2. Kelly, I just found your blog and am myself a Foreign Service spouse. Your description about who you are basically spelled out how I feel about being a Foreign Service family. We’re just starting out — in our 3rd tour domestically (Charleston, SC, where I have family), and in the summer bid cycle right now to figure out the 4th tour. We have 2 young kids (2 and 7 months), and, like you, I spend the dead of night searching all sorts of house porn for that perfect “forever” home that I will be able to bring our kids back to in between overseas assignments. Oh, and I’m also an attorney who happens to love her career, so I’ve had wild, manic mood swings about the direction of my career in addition to feeling woefully underemployed (like I did when we were posted in Kuala Lumpur). Anyway, just wanted to let you know it’s comforting to find another kindred (and sometimes conflicted) diplo-spouse!


  3. Kelly,

    I just read your About Me and your March 10 post to Millennials. I have the opportunity to join your ranks one day soon, but I am quite skeptical about the idea of “trailing”. I’ve got a cushy 20something city lifestyle, great job, etc. It’s a relief to see your voice among all of the spouse blogs which seem to be gung-ho. Looking forward to perusing your blog more!


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